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(en) Spaine, CNT #431 - The entelechy - DOSIER: The struggle of women By Cristina Cobo Hervás (ca, de, it, pt, tr)[machine translation]

Date Tue, 13 Sep 2022 09:53:28 +0300


By definition, although it sounds like sepia to begin a writing like this, entelechy is a feminine noun that is part of the non-real. But we are not going to talk about anything new today, nor about any concept that has to be supported by brainy studies or macro-surveys. In any case, none of the percentages that show the realities that we know seem to generate the social alarm necessary to bring about change. ---- Conciliation is an entelechy. Both feminine singular. Both impossible. Unless we want to start calling things by their names and replace the word "reconcile" with "accumulate." Because that's what we do, combine tasks in the huge task of wanting to be complete people, and we can't let go of ballast. And behind us a whole series of weights inherited by the patriarchal culture, conveniently made up by our disguises as competent and multifaceted women, hiding the shame of those who do nothing to avoid our anchoring to what we no longer want to be.

Reconciliation is an entelechy. Both feminine singular. Both impossible. Unless we want to start calling things by their names and replace the word "reconcile" with "accumulate."

Women, invisible in almost all fields of knowledge, are nevertheless overrepresented in what is supposed to have always been our function: care work. And since the figures are the only aseptic thing that seems to give plausibility to our reality, let's write numbers:

More than 95% of the people who have left their jobs to dedicate themselves to domestic responsibilities are WOMEN. The triple working day (home, work and care) is unfeasible. Someone has to concede. And of course, we do it.
More than 85% of people who work as non-professional caregivers are WOMEN. By "non-professionals" is meant "unpaid". At what point was the equating of free labor to slavery abandoned?
86% of working women share this work with housework, compared to 53% of men. Although it would be necessary to check what they mean by "sharing" home and work, because they usually act as gregarious members of the thinking minds of menus and shopping lists. The so-called "exhausted woman syndrome" is already a concept that is beginning to be used by the medical system in the United Kingdom to define the boredom and permanent tiredness of women who come to the clinic in a state of stress that is impossible to manage.
And we can go on talking about numbers, making colored bar graphs, blue for them and pink for us, and hold our heads in our hands for five minutes and make stale comments like "if we don't make progress...".

And it is that WE ARE NOT ADVANCED. At least not us.
WE continue to take care, handcuffed. What do I do with my house? What do I do with my sons, with my daughters? How do I combine everything? And above all, how do I do it without complaining? How do I let go of any desire for personal and professional progression without feeling guilty about it? How do I dedicate myself to myself, to my ambitions, how do I plan a future free of burdens without feeling rubbish for letting go of those acquired by a system that drops the weight of the world on my shoulders?

WE remain inactive at the social level, in the trade union struggle. It is evident that there is an age limit from which women stop being represented in the struggle, and that limit, once again, is marked by care work.

WE do not progress in the world of work. The percentage of women founding members of commercial, cooperative and labor companies ranges between 23 and 30%. And only 35% of women are listed as self-employed. And it is that we have always been better at working for others.

WE accumulate most part-time or temporary contracts. With maternity leaves that make any country that considers itself an advanced democracy blush, we abandon child-rearing at sixteen or twenty weeks in nursery schools without places, with personnel exploited by the outsourcing of services, and we delegate our families to the inflexibility of a labor market that wants us to raise and shut up. And in the end, we give up.

Are there solutions for such imbalance? Must they all necessarily go through a work of permanent struggle and resistance? It seems so, in principle. Refusing to be all that we are supposed to be is the only way out. And there are channels for it.

Because in the end, we have to abandon the word RECONCILE, an absurdity invented to subdue the minds and bodies of women, for PRIORITIZING. And the priority should always be YOU.

IT IS NOT YOUR SOLE RESPONSIBILITY to carry the weight of the house. And it is not either to force those who do not consider that work as their obligation. Pack your suitcase and stop working for free with someone who doesn't really want to share life with you and aspires to be a provider of various maintenance. That is not your place. Get out of there.

IT IS NOT YOUR SOLE RESPONSIBILITY to raise minors. You are not responsible for other people's desire to genetically perpetuate yourself. So much fighting on the legal level for shared custody, when in reality we only wanted SHARED PARENTING...

IT IS NOT YOUR OBLIGATION to give up your work progress or cut your hours, if you do not want to. Study your agreement, get advice, and fight for your right to combine your life with your day. And if the company does not collaborate, as is usual, get organized and create a union section in your company that begins to put on everyone's lips the need to respect legal rights acquired by many other people before us.

DON'T FALL INTO THE TRAP OF ROMANTIC LOVE, that tentacle that anchors us to dependencies and nullifies us as people. Loving is not giving up. Lean on your tribe. A partner is a vital complement, not a burden. It is not your responsibility to make another person emotionally mature. As Ayn Rand said, "To say I love you, you must first learn to say ME."

Because in the end, we have to abandon the word RECONCILE, an absurdity invented to subdue the minds and bodies of women, for PRIORITIZING. And the priority should always be YOU.

https://www.cnt.es/noticias/la-entelequia/
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